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In emotional mastery, we don’t settle with just knowing how to correctly acknowledge, appreciate and act on negative emotions.
If you haven’t read my previous letter on how to correctly approach negative emotions, see here.
It’s not enough to remove the weeds, we need to plant and cultivate what we want to grow.
If we cultivate enough positive emotions, there will not be much room for negative ones. We want to be absolute masters of our emotional states, don’t we?
That is why we must master the Power Emotions.
The 10 Power Emotions:
Gratitude
Hunger
Passion
Love
Curiosity
Flexibility
Confidence
Cheerfulness
Vitality
Sense of contribution
Without further ado, let’s get into how we plant and develop these.
1. Gratitude
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle
Gratitude is the strongest force in attracting greater things into your life.
When you are displaying gratitude and giving thanks, greater things are given to you.
Expressing gratitude is a huge joy enhancer, as it opens abundance consciousness.
Right now, ask yourself “What am I grateful for in this moment?”
You will begin to see and feel the abundance that was always there…
How to cultivate gratitude:
- We can begin by becoming aware of our ungratefulness and then expressing gratitude in those areas, or to those people
- Gratitude meditations can certainly help (Tony Robbins has a very good one)
- Giving thanks often is a sure way to become a more grateful person
- Gratitude journaling is simple and effective
Benefits of gratitude:
- Increases happiness
- Improves self-esteem
- Improves relationships
- Boosts immune system
- Less stress & better sleep
- Better overall mental health
How gratitude alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
You cannot be grateful and angry simultaneously.
You cannot be grateful and fearful simultaneously.
Gratitude is the antidote to these two emotions.
As mentioned in my previous letter on negative emotions, the second step in mastering your emotions is to acknowledge and appreciate the signal. Being grateful for the message (negative emotion) will create a more positive outlook on the situation and allow you to better move forward.
2. Hunger
“I’m hungry for knowledge. The whole thing is to learn every day, to get brighter and brighter.” – Jay Z
Tony Robbins often says hunger is the great secret to success. He also frequently states all the great leaders he has worked with have harnessed one great force, hunger.
A fierce hunger tremendously helps overcome the fear of failure.
The hungrier you are for achievement, the more confident and relentless you become.
How to cultivate hunger:
- Get clear on your BIG WHY – what is your purpose for striving?
- Be around people who are where you want to be, this will create a hunger-on-steroids type of feeling
- Give yourself NO option for retreat. If you want to take an island, burn the boats
- Associate stagnation with pain. Associate progress with pleasure. Humans do things to avoid pain or gain pleasure
Benefits of hunger:
- Helps overcome the fear of failure
- Fuels great problem solving
- Drives improvement
How hunger alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Being hungry for success drives us to better regulate our negative emotions, so we can stay on course to achieving our goals. It fuels you to use negative emotions for positive gain.
That’s what it did for me and that’s how I began learning emotional mastery.
On a side note, I do emotional well-being coaching.
If you struggle to implement any of the habits, I’d be happy to help.
We can jump on a friendly consultation call to see if we’re a good fit.
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3. Passion
“If passion drives you, let reason hold the reins.” – Benjamin Franklin
Passion is what gives us boundless energy. Whether it’s the passion for your work or a relationship, passion will fuel positive imagination & progress.
It adds very positive energy to life.
How to cultivate passion:
- DO THE THINGS YOU LOVE TO DO - (If you do not know what you love to do, the following two points will help with that)
- Frequently expand your mind, via continuous learning and experiencing new things
- Cultivate friendships with passionate people
Benefits of passion:
- Expansion of comfort zone, as you feel compelled to level up in the things that you’re strongly passionate about
- Much higher sustained levels of success, in all areas of life where you feel strongly passionate
- Makes it easier to stay on the course of a worthy ideal, and not give up
- Ignites passion in others
- Drives vision
How passion alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
We feel less frustration when we are working on our passions.
Whether it’s a passion project or a passionate relationship, even if we are not receiving our desired rewards for our efforts, we can still feel good about the work we put in.
This is simply because we love doing it!
Also, when you’re strongly passionate about something, it alleviates feeling overloaded as you can more easily blast through priority tasks.
4. Love
“When you love what you have, you have everything you need.” - Unknown (but let’s just say me 🙃)
Love is what everything is about.
When you do things for love, things change.
Love is the ingredient that will make all the work required to sustain a good relationship worth doing!
The same applies to your work if you love what you do. All the parts of your work that you don’t enjoy doing can be done with less motivation, as they are just tasks that get you closer to doing the bit you love!
How to cultivate love:
- It all begins with self-love, the more we healthily love ourselves, the more we can express love to others. Self-love involves self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and self-care
- Be around people you truly appreciate – a good way to find out if you truly appreciate someone is to ask yourself “If I couldn’t get anything from this person, would I still spend time with them?”
- Be the first to apologise in your important relationships, and work diligently on growing or repairing the relationship, but don’t be taken for granted
Benefits of love:
- Feel significantly more connected and secure
- A great number of positive feelings
- Less stress and anxiety in life
- A happier and healthier life
- + 1,000,000 more
How love alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
The special feeling of love can melt away almost any negative emotion, especially when it’s coming from someone you truly love.
Furthermore, being in a loving state allows you to truly forgive someone. And true forgiveness can eradicate all negative emotions caused by others.
5. Curiosity
“I am neither especially clever nor especially gifted. I am only very, very curious.” – Albert Einstein
Curiosity is what blows the lid off our cap on growth in life!
If we are curious, we will never stop growing and appreciating.
It enables us to truly wonder and to see the beauty in things that often go unseen.
How to cultivate curiosity:
- Expose yourself to new things: the fun, the ‘boring’, and everything in between
- Ask many questions, especially ‘why’ questions
- Read or listen to new material, often
- Say less, observe more
Benefits of curiosity:
- Allows you to embrace unfamiliar circumstances, resulting in a greater opportunity to experience discovery, joy, and higher levels of learning
- Makes you more interesting as curiosity further opens your mind
- Empathy is developed when curiosity replaces judgment
- Curiosity and improvement are synonymous
How curiosity alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Curiosity does more than you might expect here.
Firstly, it massively helps people who are prone to boredom.
Secondly, high levels of curiosity boost progress when feeling frustrated. Getting curious about what can help you handle a challenge will make seeking and finding new useful knowledge a more enjoyable process.
Lastly, getting curious instead of judgemental tremendously helps you learn about people & things! It naturally helps you become a lot more accepting.
6. Flexibility
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” – Albert Einstein
The ability to change your approach and adapt to situations is a huge indication of future success.
Our confidence in our ability to adapt determines the amount of uncertainty we are willing to live with. Furthermore, our level of happiness is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty we are willing to live with!
Therefore, being flexible cultivates true independent happiness.
How to cultivate flexibility:
- Affirm to yourself that things do happen for a reason, and then positively attack the next best alternative
- Be open-minded to new methods & ideologies, most things have their place
- Intentionally look for opportunity amid the chaos
Benefits of flexibility:
- Expansion of our capabilities
- Greater happiness levels, as well as self-satisfaction
- An improved positive outlook on life and for the future (increased hope)
How flexibility alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Firstly, it’s worth stating that Action signals (negative emotions) are just messages calling you to be more flexible.
But let’s get into the specifics.
Flexibility is the cure for frustration, as being flexible will ensure you refine your actions and take a different approach until you’re successful.
As the ability to become flexible gets stronger, less fear haunts us as we feel more self-sufficient in handling what we need to do.
Furthermore, it can help when feeling inadequate, as it will be easier to improve when we’re being flexible.
7. Confidence
“The most certain person usually wins.” - Me
A strong showing of confidence shows a strong showing of faith.
The more faith we have, the more confident we become.
Unshakeable confidence is what provides certainty in life.
How to cultivate confidence:
- Consistently improving in an area
- Feel good! Dress up, and show up
- Positive affirmations specific to you
- Increased faith leads to increased confidence
- Look at/visualize difficult things you’ve already done
- Increase productivity, improve input levels but also stay focused on the quality of output
Benefits of confidence:
- Confidence is the key to unlocking your potential, you could be the most skilled person but if you don’t have the confidence to use the skills then it’s worthless
- It makes us act courageously despite failure and fear
- More freedom in our lives
How confidence alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Step 4 in mastering negative emotions is to get confident!
Getting confident is very important when handling negative emotions.
We must feel confident that we can handle them; without sureness, we won’t do very well.
Again, if you need assistance implementing any of this, we can jump on a friendly consultation call to see if we’re a good fit.
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8. Cheerfulness
“Be happy not because everything is good but because you can see the good side of everything.” – Unknown
Being cheerful means you exude a state of pleasure.
One that positively affects people around you.
How to cultivate cheerfulness:
- Find and do things you love
- Take time for yourself
- Avoid comparisons
- Cultivate gratitude
- Be forgiving
Benefits of cheerfulness:
- Positively affects both physical and mental health
- Overall increased levels of happiness and contentment
- People genuinely appreciate a cheerful person, especially during hard times
How cheerfulness alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Being cheerful can ease all negative emotions.
It increases optimism and hope for the future, as well as happiness in the present, allowing us to better endure and overcome negative states.
9. Vitality
“Vitality shows in not only the ability to persist but the ability to start over.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
Vitality simply means energy.
It is the state of being strong and active.
Without vitality, it is hard to push through and overcome barriers, plateaus, and challenges. With vitality, we can breeze through these three.
How to cultivate vitality:
- Healthy diet + plenty of water
- Quality sleep
- Exercise daily - weights, cardio, yoga
- Choose gratitude and abundance
- Do something positive and challenging often
- Practice healthy habits that make you feel more alive, such as meditation and cold immersion
Benefits of vitality:
- Feel way better physically and mentally
- Vastly increased energy to work and progress
- More present and engaging across all situations
How vitality alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Vitality gives you the energy to resolve the action signals!
Without you having sufficient vitality the action signals will overpower your determination every time.
10. Sense of contribution
“Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy: true fulfilment.” – Tony Robbins
Tony Robbins says the secret to living is giving.
The more we give, the more we get.
But ultimately, the more we get, the more we get to give.
The beautiful cycle repeats.
We get things much greater than money when we give. We get a sense of contribution, a sense of doing something for a purpose much greater than just for our betterment. This is the ultimate fulfilment, life’s deepest joy.
How to cultivate a sense of contribution:
- Do something positive for someone! Anything at all
- Focus your efforts and time on adding value to things close to your heart
- Become a person of value for those around you, then begin impacting a bigger domain, repeat
Benefits of a sense of contribution:
- Experience life’s deepest joy, life takes on a new deeper meaning
How a sense of contribution alleviates/prevents negative emotions:
Contributing takes you out of your head and into the world, making other people’s lives better instead of mulling over your problems.
This ensures you don’t exacerbate your negative emotions.
Contributing is the best way to channel the energy from negative emotions.
Thank you for reading!
What I’d like you to do is to plant one of these emotions today, and then spend the next 6 days actively developing it.
You’ll see for yourself how beneficial it is.
Then, by extension, you’ll naturally plant the rest.
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I appreciate you spending time with me.
- Ryan Dhillon