If You Are Lost in Life, This is Your Purpose

You’ve been looking everywhere.

Everywhere.

You’ve followed the generic advice:

“Keep on searching, it’ll come to you!”

“You’ll find it one day!”

But to no avail.

Late at night, after an exhausting day helping other people fulfil their missions, you’ve asked yourself:

“Why can’t I find MY damn purpose?!”

“Why does MY purpose feel so elusive?”

You’ve looked everywhere for it.

To put it simply: you’re stuck...

You’re stuck in purgatory.

It’s like you’re paying for your sins of living a purposeless life before you can access your true purpose.

Naturally, when you cannot align your life with your purpose, you become destructive.

Purpose is the core of the masculine’s life.

Without purpose: you become a wounded masculine.

Here are the attributes of a wounded masculine:

• Abusive

• Unstable

• Aggressive

• Controlling

• Overly defensive

• Extremely critical

• Overly competitive

Any of these feel familiar?

You’re not a terrible person.

You’re just lacking purpose.

It’s natural to fall into this state when you feel lost and purposeless.

A lack of direction and a lack of clarity always fucking haunts us.

The temptation of hedonism? Always knocking.

Overindulging in instant gratification? Why the fuck not.

We all know this only leads to an abundance of guilt though.

Only exacerbating the entire issue.

I’ve been where you are.

You take 1 step forward.

Only to take 3 steps back.

You have a ‘productive’ day.

Only to relapse into your addiction of choice.

You’ve associated minimal achievement with intoxication to make your miserable existence slightly more bearable.

Whenever you do win or feel an ounce of success, you fuck it up again.

You feel like you’re disappointing the people who believe in you.

Your self-esteem is lower than your sex drive (and not just because you’ve exhausted it watching porn for an hour straight).

But...

Deep down...

You know you’re meant for more.

There’s a quiet whisper whilst you’re cracking open your 5^th beer bottle:

“You’re meant for more... and you know it.”

“I FUCKING KNOW! I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M SUPPOSED TO BE DOING!”

Struggling with purpose in life is truly awful for the masculine.

As I mentioned earlier, the masculine’s core is purpose.

Without it, we feel incredibly lost and out of touch with the present moment.

So then. How do we find our damn purpose?

Purpose

In order to identify your purpose, you need energy.

Your life force cannot be depleted.

You will not be able to hear your heart’s desires otherwise.

The reason why you don’t know your purpose is because you’re depleted.

So here is what you need to do.

If you’re lost in life, view purpose this way:

Your Purpose = Progressively Realize the Best Version of Yourself.

You need to constantly be working towards being the best version of yourself.

What does this mean in concrete terms?

It means developing the core pillars of your life + completing your personal missions.

You simply cannot be the best version of yourself if you neglect the core pillars of your life.

Here are the core pillars of your life:

• Health

• Wealth

• Relationships

The better you develop these pillars, the more energy you will have, and the more purposefully you live.

Furthermore, each of the pillars complements and interacts with each other.

Let me give you some examples.

Good physical health increases vitality.

You need vitality for:

• developing strong relationships

• pushing meaningful projects forward

Good emotional health helps you face challenges with equanimity.

This increases stress tolerance.

Stress tolerance directly correlates with business success.

A good business gives you freedom in the form of wealth.

That freedom allows you to double down on your health and relationships.

Improved relationships make your downtime from work infinitely more enjoyable and fulfilling.

You get the gist.

They all tie into each other.

I made this image for simplification purposes.

Relationships are for inspiration.

Holistic health is for energy.

Missions are for fulfilment.

Wealth is for freedom.

Back to the main point.

If you’re lost in life, think of yourself as your purpose.

Why am I so confident in my theory?

Firstly, by adopting this mental model, you feel purposeful.

That in itself is enough for people who have been deprived of purpose for so long.

But to add more points:

You truly feel alive.

You consistently become greater.

You can prioritize what truly matters.

You get to feel the progress buzz daily.

You can pursue things that truly align with your values.

Only you truly know what will bring out the best version of yourself.

You have the freedom to create meaningful missions to express your purpose.

You have the power to define your own growth to bring out the best in yourself.

All of the above leads to optimal personal fulfilment.

Resulting in a huge net positive impact for those around you.

Why is it stupid to tell people with low energy that anything other than them is their purpose?

In short:

They will always look outwardly for it.

They won’t find it.

They will feel eternally lost.

They could quite easily become self-destructive.

Resulting in a net negative impact on those around you.

You see that? How you impact those around you is paramount.

There’s nothing more important.

With my approach to purpose, you will be a much better person for those around you.

Furthermore, once you do find your main purpose, there is no need to drop this purpose.

Why? Because if you’re not actively growing, you’re dying.

There is no stagnation in life.

In order to be a force for good for this generation and the ones after, you need to be progressively realizing the best version of yourself.

If you achieved everything you wanted to by 40 years of age and then became a miserable piece of shit who no longer improves himself, you’ve taken a wrong turn.

Hence, your purpose throughout your entire life is to progressively realize a better version of yourself.

It’s interesting. Whenever you have been stagnating (declining) in life, deep down you feel awful.

Why is that?

It’s because you’re going against a core purpose.

No wonder why it feels terrible!

Missions

How then, do you express your purpose?

Through missions.

Your missions are ways to improve your life.

You have missions relating to the core pillars of life (Health, Wealth, and Relationships).

You also have other personal missions.

Simply put:

Your purpose is the why.

Your mission is what/how.

Here’s an example I thought of to back up my theory:

Lionel Messi. 

If you asked a random guy on the street:

“What do you think Messi’s life purpose is?”

I guarantee they’ll say to play Football.

But how is that so?

Football is a career. It’s a mission.

If playing professional football is Messi’s life purpose, what should he do once his career is over?

Is his life purpose effectively over?

Of course not!

Football is simply a way for Messi to progressively realize better versions of himself.

His love for playing football made him:

• A better father

• A better friend

• A better husband

• A healthier person

• A wealthier person

Playing football is DEFINITELY his main mission right now.

But his purpose? My theory stands true here.

Once he’s retired from playing professional football, he’ll pursue something else that brings out the best in him as a human being.

You get my point?

Some individuals have made their core mission their life purpose.

And once it’s completed?

They’re fucking miserable.

It’s very common for that individual to go off the rails.

We hear these stories all the time.

Conor McGregor is unfortunately a prime modern-day example.

Selecting Missions 

It’s quite simple to select missions within the core pillars of life.

A few examples could be:

Health – Run a 5K in under 20 minutes

Relationships – Find an amazing partner

Wealth – Build a business that does $50K MRR

Selecting personal missions is slightly different.

Personal missions = your soul’s missions.

These missions bring incredible levels of fulfilment.

You’ll recognize them from this simple observation:

You are ecstatic about the progress alone. 

Let alone completion.

Sure, setting a goal such as painting a picture would make me feel good.

The progress would be cool to experience.

Completion would be nice too.

But I’d get way more joy from a personal mission of mine, such as developing an 8-Pack that Bruce Lee would be proud of.

Already got a 6-pack, so I’m almost there. ;)

Almost nobody takes time to find their personal mission(s).

People will claim they have, but trust me, they haven’t.

How do I know this?

Easy.

People don’t spend time in silence anymore.

You’ll only find your personal missions in silence.

Personal missions are like cats.

If you chase them, they will run away from you.

If you have something the mission wants, it’ll come to you.

What do personal missions want?

They want you to be silent.

They want you to self-reflect.

The way you find your personal mission is to sit in silence with a notebook, and stare at your fucking wall.

I’m legitimately being serious.

Don’t call me crazy if you haven’t tried it.

Don’t just sit there for 5 minutes either.

Spend at least an hour in silence.

The way to discover personal missions it is to sit in silence and let your mind run and compute.

Once the mind has computed those thoughts which you have been distracting yourself from, you will FINALLY begin to hear your heart and soul.

The heart feels and knows.

But you can only access the heart’s treasure through a state of awareness.

Through being detached from the mind.

There are a lot of people with quick brains who have ZERO connection with their hearts.

They endlessly solve problems.

Only to still feel deeply unfulfilled.

I can explain this.

It’s simply because they haven’t listened to their heart!

Do both.

Become a quick thinker AND take the time to listen to your heart.

You don’t necessarily have to find your mission.

You just need to relax in the moment to discover it.

It is being shown to you right now.

You are being lived by a force deeper than you.

The masculine practice is intuitively feeling and identifying with that force so that when you wake up in the morning, you are lived by your mission.

If you are struggling to align your life with your mission, it’s because you are thinking too much.

You’ll never find it by thinking.

You’ll find it by relaxing into the moment.

Your Turn

Here’s what I’m leaving you with:

Step 1) Pick a mission within Health.

Step 2) Pick a mission within Wealth.

Step 3) Pick a mission within Relationships.

Once you’ve conquered each of these missions, your LIFE XP will have skyrocketed.

With a higher XP, you’ll be drawn to greater missions.

Which leads to:

Step 4) Sit in silence for an extended period of time and truly listen to your heart’s desires.

Let your thoughts pass.

And patiently wait for the revelation.

Thanks for reading.

I appreciate you spending time with me.