Full Relationship Guide

Relationships are not complicated.

I said it.

They’re NOT complicated.

The complexity arises only when you lack a thorough understanding of the underlying principles.

By grasping the concepts of polarity, the keys to passion, and the fundamental rules of a healthy relationship, they become very simple.

Trust me.

I’m not going to discuss polarity in this letter.

That in itself requires its own letter.

(I’m working on it.)

Once you finish this concise yet comprehensive guide, you'll gain immense clarity on how to cultivate a truly beautiful relationship.

If you're currently in a relationship, take note of areas that require improvement or correction as you read through these insights.

If you find yourself currently single: get out there when you feel ready to do so.

When you find a person with whom you can see a potential future, apply these principles and watch the magic unfold.

Fundamental Relationship Rules

1) Never question the intent of your partner.

If their character is seriously causing concern for you, then have an honest and open conversation with them.

Otherwise, assume their intentions are good.

Why are you with them otherwise?

If you’re thinking of dating someone but unsure whether their intentions towards you are good... don’t date them.

Simple as that.

2) Don’t bluntly correct your partner.

If you’re certain they’re wrong, gently say it.

We remember how people made us feel more than anything else.

We will certainly remember how our partner made us feel.

Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you.

3) Don’t get stuck in negative patterns.

If you keep encountering the same problem, change your approach.

You may need to change your perception or your actions.

You know best.

4) NEVER threaten the relationship.

This creates an imbalance of power.

Healthy relationships are all about mutual respect and support.

Your partner won’t forget you played the threat card.

And why would they?

It’ll always be in the back of their mind when resolving problems with you.

This leads to resolutions being made out of fear, rather than love.

The demise has already begun.

5) Adopt a growth mindset.

Seek to constantly improve your relationship.

Don’t settle for anything less than amazing.

Your intimate relationship is one of the most important aspects of your life.

Why settle for anything but the best from it?

6) Appreciate and compliment the unique aspects of your partner.

Each individual possesses their own unique qualities.

Your partner should be the one who appreciates and recognizes the most distinct aspects of who you are.

Similarly, you should reciprocate this by acknowledging their uniqueness.

If you neglect each other's exceptional qualities, they will go unnoticed by the world.

After all, who else other than your partner genuinely cares about them?

7) Never compare your relationship to that of others.

This breeds insecurity.

Understand every single relationship (intimate or friendship) is completely unique.

The way I determine if a relationship (of any sort) is strong is by seeing how quickly and effectively they come to a resolution after an argument.

If you’ve never argued with your friend, you haven’t been friends for long enough.

The same applies to your intimate relationship.

Arguing is natural.

It’s a given.

You’re two different people after all.

The quality of the resolution dictates all.

8) Strict rules create upsets.

We all bring expectations into relationships.

We have a firm belief in our mind that this is the way our partner should act, or this is the way the relationships must be.

But remember, your partner has different rules than you.

And your partners’ feelings aren’t any less valid than yours.

Obviously, there are certain rules which must never be broken.

Cheating, for example.

But honestly assess how many rules and expectations you have projected onto your relationship.

They are not helping.

They are invisible chains.

Make a firm decision to value the relationship over strict expectations.

9) Reinforce your connection through activities.

At least once a week, do a fun activity together.

Keep the spirit and connection strong.

It’ll make every other aspect of your life better too!

Never let the connection become stale.

What stagnates… dies.

10) Decide it’s more important to be in love than to be right.

There will be times when you know for certain you’re right, and they’re wrong.

But what’s the priority?

Is it more important that you’re right and the relationship suffers?

Or is it more important that you prioritize the relationship?

Think about it.

It’s your call.

If however, you’re truly in love, you’ve got to be extremely stupid to not pick the latter.

Keys for Passion and Intimacy

Relationships with Women (Men, listen up)

Key 1 – Let her vent to you.

Key 2 – Validate her feelings.

Key 3 – Don’t try to solve her problems immediately; focus on just listening.

Need 1 – Women need to feel understood.

When a woman doesn’t feel understood, she closes off and radiates less feminine energy. However, when a woman does feel understood, she feels more comfortable and continues to open up.

Key 4 – Express what you appreciate about her, often.

Key 5 – Give her your undivided attention.

Key 6 – Notice what usually goes unnoticed.

Need 2 – Women need to feel seen.

Your presence is the best gift you can give her.

Take time to notice the beautiful details about her.

Pay her sincere compliments often.

Key 7 – Make decisions.

Key 8 – Show her how important she is to you.

Key 9 – Take care of her. Be incredibly reliable.

Need 3 – Women need to feel safe.

When a woman feels safe, she opens up and connects on a deeper level.

Show her that you have the relationship and her safety under control.

Don’t be wishy-washy; be decisive.

Relationships with Men (Women, pay close attention)

Key 1 – Appreciate what your man brings to your life.

Key 2 – Boast about him to others.

Key 3 – Celebrate his small victories too!

Need 1 – Men need to feel appreciated.

Criticizing a man will destroy his connection with you.

Make him your hero. If you do, he’d do ANYTHING for you.

Key 4 – Give ownership to him. Don’t micromanage.

Key 5 – Show him you value his opinion.

Key 6 – Encourage him to go do what makes him happy!

Need 2 – Men need to feel free.

The masculine is ALWAYS searching for freedom.

Never micromanage. He won’t feel free.

Encourage him to be in his element, to be free!

Key 7 – Step into your femininity.

Key 8 – Be in your own element. He loves that about you.

Key 9 – Don’t repress your emotions. Share them with him.

Need 3 – Men need to feel opened up to.

If he feels that you’re closed off, he won’t try harder to connect.

Instead, open up to him.

Allow pain, happiness, and everything in between to flow through the relationship.

There it is.

You’re good to go.

You officially know more than 95% of people about relationships.

I wish you the absolute best in your relationships.

Remember: The quality of your life is largely determined by the quality of your relationships. 

NEVER neglect this core pillar of your life.

You can always get your money back.

But never time.

Time spent around those you love is NEVER wasted time.

Enjoy it.

Life is short.

P.S. If you need any help implementing this, simply reply to this email or send one here – [email protected]

I appreciate you spending time with me.

Ryan Dhillon.